Monday, 25 June 2012

Deriving  inspiration from the  pep talk in my previous post, 
 I had love to share some commandments  I abide by personally:

1.   Wear Clothes that Fit:  Oh, am I stickler for breaking this rule.  When I feel fat, I wear clothes that try to hide it. I try to wear oversized shirts to cover my mid-section. By fit clothes I mean not to tight or too loose, each cloth can be customised for your body.  However, when I lost a lot of weight, I felt a lot more comfortable sporting clothes that hugged my hips a little more showed off some curves.  I loved how I felt and how I looked.

2.   Experiment: Try and experiment with different styles. You will notice how much more styles you can flaunt rather than sticking to your everyday casuals. For this you need an confidant, a near one, could be anyone from your mother to sister to your boyfriend. You need a strictly honest opinion     and if  if you are sure about rocking it, Well go ahead girl!


3. Demand Better Treatment from Healthcare Professionals :  This rule has started to bore me and puts me on an edge every time I go to the doctor. Maybe it's because I haven't been "tortured" by healthcare professionals in terms of my weight.  Have doctors expressed a concern about my weight and the complications it can lead to? Yes.  Being fat is much more than adipose tissues on that tummy,thighs and love handles.
It becomes all the more important if your  family history is  riddled with diabetes and heart disease, I totally understand when he shares his concerns The doctor’s job is to keep me well.  I don't believe for a second that I'm receiving some form of dogmatism when he mentions that losing a few pounds would take the strain off of my knees and would help prevent the diseases that run wild through my family members. 

4.  Find A Way to Move:  Another great rule.  Although I just  can't it through my head around her statement that  being evident  fat oozing at its best, I agree that moving is key to a happy, healthy live - regardless of size.  I do agree that overweight people are often mocked when wanting to participate at gyms.  They often get ridiculed for not wanting to lose weight, and ridiculed when they try.  That I agree with 100%.  Although, I personally haven't ever received anything but support when I attend a gym or want to participate in an active hobby, I know it does happen.Go for walks You may just end up rebonding over it again with an old friend or just make new ones.

5.  Stand Up for Yourself: I agree that many overweight people are bullied and ridiculed because of their size.  I've lived with being taunted and laughed at because of my weight.  I don't like feeling that ridicule.  I wholeheartedly believe that people should stand up for themselves from body haters - and any other form of haters.  No one knows the many possible causes that a person can be overweight.  I'm one of those people that have struggled with being a overweight my whole life, but I also have demons that lead to the huge expansion of my waist line about 10 years ago.  Each person's reasons or demons are different, and no one should ever be ridiculed for that. I will never offer my advice without being asked...and I don't make anyone read my blog I don't believe that everyone is out to belittle overweight people when they offer words of encouragement.

6.Deal With Your Fat: OK, I'll be honest,  Hate me if you will, but I couldn't help it.  When I read about how I should take extra care of drying in between my fat rolls, and taking precautions not to get heat blisters between my thighs, I felt a little queasy.  Not because what she said was disgusting, but because I knew exactly what she was talking about it - and I hated it.  Label it however you want, but I just can't wrap my head around loving my fat rolls.  I just can't.  Believe me, I've tried.  I've often woken up thinking "so what if I'm fat", but a quick trip to the mirror brings me back to reality that I don't like my fat, never have, never will.  I want it gone.  I know that this is the whole point to her entire article, but I just can't find happiness in looking the way I do....and it's what motivates me to keep trying to get rid of it.  I don't want to have to buy a bigger chair, I don't want to take up two spaces at a movie theatre, and I don't want a seat belt extender.  Not because I think there's anything wrong with any of those things - but because none of that makes me happy.  Call me vain, brainwashed, crazy. Whatever it is your opinion about me after this statement but I can never wrap my head around the thought of just being happy being overweight.  I'm happy trying to lose the weight making the effort.  After All that shines does certainly appeal to the eye more than the rest of the world.

7.Lastly There Are Worse Things In The World Than Being Fat:  This rule is short, to the point, and absolutely true.  There are of course far worse things than being fat.  I've made that point countless times over when I put losing weight on a back burner because other priorities fall in to the mix.  Although, I can't help but bring back the point that one worse thing than being fat is being handicapped or suffering from incurable diseases.  Continuing to pack on the pounds could result in an early demise.  I don't want that to happen.  It's not the main reason I'm trying to lose weight though.  My reasons are purely vanity driven.  But, I will say that all of my reasons are purely for me.  I don't feel pressured to do it - I want to.

Monday, 18 June 2012

My Social Dilemma

Today, the research shows that the world population has now reached 7 billion people.
If we were a world of 100 people, a research conducted by says that 
1 would be dying of starvation.
15 would be undernourished.
21 would be overweight.
I am not here to tell you about how being more charitable by donating or limiting your lifestyle intakes, I strongly believe in the philosophy ‘To each, his own!’But I am here to make a little difference to your perception about how you look at others.
Recently, I came across a rather saddening realization and  was  rather appalled  by the fact that no matter what happens, people will always look for those who are perfectly perfect to the T. And I am talking about physical appearance. I heard that once you come into the REAL world, you realize how obnoxious it is. It eats you up alive. Now, I witnessed it myself. As I walked into my class every single day people stare at me as if I was  human meteoroid, landed on Earth.
 It would happen every single day till my first year ended. Many a times people would come up with songs to tease me. My teachers would pull me out saying that I wore inappropriate clothes to college whereas another petite girl could sport the very same style without being noticed. My friends did try to console me a little here and there served with added tablespoons of sarcasm. And then I just stopped caring, more like trying to ignore. Each time they another family friend or relative came home I would hear the same thing over and over again. Sorry if I'm being cocky But I Have Just started to feel that way. People didn't realize how body shy they made me by saying all the harsh, heartbreaking, insensitive things they would say. I suffer from POCD and hypothyroid, I’m absolutely expected to pile on weight. Not that I want to hide under the weight of this excuse but I have started to accept my body as it is. To some women, being a size double-zero or zero is natural, but for those that starve or abuse drugs, it's a battle to stay at a size that your body is rejecting. 
I want to be healthy because I feel better when I'm healthy.  I can do more stuff, like being active.  I don't necessarily have to be thin to be healthy, I agree with that  but I know that many of my ailments would cease if I weighed less.
In the last couple of years, plus-size models have gone from being novelties in high-fashion shows and couture, to being included in mainstream campaigns and editorials in nearly every glossy. India is still far from acceptance. Even now, it’s nearly impossible to even mention the words “plus-size” without stirring up a bit of controversy; whether they come under scrutiny for being too thin, too fat, or too “normal.” 
I read a lot of the comments whenever an article comes out online about plus-size fashion or models and I'm horrified by the ignorance I read. People equate bigger people with being unhealthy.
I started blogging originally to heal, I've been big my whole life and it was time that I stopped feeling bad about myself, but now it is so much more. When my mother was pregnant with me they expected twins! It is about self-acceptance and plus size fashion, and occasionally my random thoughts. If I manage to inspire one person, then I have achieved my goal for my blog.  I haven’t mustered the courage to even post each day and the post would just keep stacking on but ever since I've started blogging my love for fashion has grown at a rapid rate and so has my self confidence.
 I think I might get into the fashion industry some day, make a difference and be successful.
My mission to revive everyday dressing and styling for plus size women continues hereafter and I can only ask to all my lovely readers who are reading this article, to be a little more sensitive towards us. We do not need your pity, sympathy.

We aren’t any different from you, we have just made with a pinch more of extra love.
As for fashion being relative to plus size the sky is our limit with a little bit of ‘Spanx’!